If you've ever felt envious towards another person, this episode is for you. This week I'll help you see where your envy may have turned into being a full-blown hater and how to get out of it.
When criticism turns to hate it can become envy. There are different types of envy, but the hater envy is usually a form of comparison and comes from a place of lack. I’m going to talk you through this with a recent example in my life, so we can all live in abundance and not from a place of lack.
[01:17] None of us probably want to admit it, but we all get envious or jealous at some point or another.
[01:48] Envy occurs when we want something that another person has. Jealousy is when we fear losing a relationship or a valued part of a relationship that we already have.
[02:16] Today we're going to talk about how Envy can lead to you being a full-on-hater. A hater is a negative or critical person.
[03:03] We're super critical and form opinions about people without very much information.
[06:09] An example of how I went from questioning to being critical to hater envy.
[08:00] Envy only comes when we're in comparison.
[08:32] There are different types of envy like attractiveness envy, confidence envy, or wealth envy.
[09:10] Envy can be hostile, or it can lean more towards admiration.
[10:00] Notice where you think that someone having something precludes you from having that also. This would be having a scarcity mindset.
[13:50] How do you get yourself out of hater envy?
[13:57] When you feel envious, remember that you don't know the background or have the full story. Putting your focus on why someone has something that you don't is a waste of time, especially if you don't know their struggles.
[14:47] What I want is my own version of showing up in the world and adding value. I want to test the limits of what is possible for me in my life.
[15:02] Don't beat yourself up if you find yourself in hater envy. When you stop focusing on the injustice of it all, you can tap into what is possible for you.
[15:37] Take inspiration from what others have achieved.
Links and Resources:
Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience