It's summer time here in Atlanta. It's been in the upper 90s forever, so I've been spending a lot of time reading, planning, praying, thinking, and journaling. One of the things that I've been thinking about a lot lately are the different motivations we use to get things done. I know I'm motivated in many different ways. Some of them are good and some of them aren't so good.
If you've ever wanted to get back at someone by achieving one of your goals, this episode is for you. This week we are talking about what I like to call “revenge goals”. It's tempting to want to use that I'll show you energy, but using this type of motivation can ultimately be detrimental to you and your future goals.
[01:57] The type of motivation I'll be talking about today is the kind that is fueled by a desire to prove somebody wrong or to make them feel bad in some way.
[02:32] It's when you decide to get in the best shape of your life to show your ex what they're missing out on.
[03:18] It's not that this motivation doesn't work, because it does. I want you to consider the energy you're exerting in order to reach a "revenge goal".
[03:34] Your thoughts create your feelings. Your feelings drive your actions. The sum total of your actions are what gives you the result that you have.
[03:51] When we set goals with revenge in mind, the thoughts you have about the circumstance create feelings of rejection, pain, sadness, anger, unworthiness, or even disappointment. Notice the feelings I've just listed.
[04:59] None of us likes to walk around feeling negative emotions. What do you do when you feel negative emotions and where do those actions lead you? What type of results do you get?
[05:08] The actions you take from feeling negative feelings don't get you to where you want to be. Even if they do get you there, you will feel crappy the entire way.
[06:08] The work is not in you achieving a goal to prove something to someone else, the real work is in you believing that you are enough just as you are.
[08:55] Don't let your brain prefer achieving goals through the miserable process of "revenge goals". Don't give your credit to someone else.
[09:43] Never set a goal with the mindset that you have to prove something to someone else. You are worthy.
[10:22] Focus on why you want to achieve your goals.
[11:08] Focus on who you want to be, not who you were.
[13:32] Achieve your biggest, scariest goals. Make your dream a reality and celebrate every step of the way. Do it for yourself.
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Things We’ll Learn:
Focus on yourself
Reinforce your worthiness
Grow from abundance
Achieve goal positively