If you’ve got big dreams and goals but aren’t working towards those things or don’t believe they are attainable. You could be suffering from optional excellence. This is where you set big goals but give yourself just enough room not to fully commit to avoid feeling fear, discomfort, disappointment, and failure. You make it optional to be everything you were called to be. This is a mindset led by emotions.
You're allowing emotions to be your compass to guide and direct you as to what you should do next. Your actions from optional excellence will be rooted firmly in your comfort zone. Don't be just enough. It might even look from the outside in that you are motivated to achieve your goal. It’s time to stop counting yourself out when there is a purpose only you can fulfill. I'm going to guide you on fighting through year fears and avoiding that trap of the optional excellence mindset.
Episode Highlights:
[05:15] I don't want you spending any more time trying to outrun the call of your soul.
[05:28] Your emotions should be used as a diagnostic tool that shines a light on what's going on inside of you. They can give you a clear picture of why you're taking the action or not.
[06:01] If your action and intention aren't in alignment with your biggest dreams you need to challenge that. I'm going to show you how to break out of the optional excellence mindset.
[06:54] You fill the void with everything that you were meant to be and allow yourself the possibility that you were wrong or miscalculated the excellence that is within you.
[07:18] I'm going to give you some guidance on fighting through fears. Fear keeps us from doing what we've been dreaming about.
[08:01] The path to where you are and where you want to be is filled with different flavors and varieties of fear.
[09:29] Look at your vision board and journal and ask these questions: 1. What exactly am I afraid of and why? 2. What negative outcomes am I imagining? 3. What negative thoughts am I pushing away or trying not to think about? 4. How are these fears stopping me from keeping my goals? 5. What will I miss out on if I don't face these fears?
[10:23] Really think about the answers to these questions.
[10:42] Would you rather live with the fears and not have the life you want or would you rather face the fears and have the life you want?
[11:02] If you decide that facing your fears is worth it to you, you've got to commit to yourself.
[12:00] Coaches are what bring the vision to life for you.
[12:30] Stop treating your dreams as options. Weigh your fears against your dreams and challenge their validity.
[13:24] Do you work and share it with your girlfriend!
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