2 Ways You’re Stalling Your Own Progress on Your Goals
December and the year are both almost over. Isn't it funny how we start looking back at how things went when we get near the end of something? I hope you're looking back at this year with a lot of pride. 2021 has been rough for a lot of people. Take some time to look at the things that you did right. I hope you're looking back with pride and not judgment. It's okay if you didn't achieve all that you planned. If you blame procrastination on laziness, you may be surprised by what we uncover in this episode.
There are so many things that can stall our goals. Today, we will talk about two pervasive ways that plans get delayed. We are going to talk about procrastination and why we procrastinate. Then I'm going to share five steps to overcome procrastination. I'm also going to talk about having shaky values and genuinely understanding what you value the most. You can overcome shaky values by acknowledging what's happening and creating a blueprint on how you want to live your life. I also share action steps to do the work and become the dangerous woman you're meant to be.
[03:19] One of the ways we tend to stall our progress is by procrastinating. Procrastination isn't always caused by laziness. It can be caused by negative feelings and task avoidance.
[04:37] If you aren't aware that thoughts about the tasks are the root cause of your procrastination, you won't be able to manage it.
[05:29] Feelings of self-doubt can be created by thoughts of not being good enough. Doing it later gives us relief, but later it intensifies the negative emotions.
[07:14] Productivity hacks aren't always effective against procrastination, because it doesn't always address the root of why it's happening. We need to address the mental root of why we are procrastinating.
[08:26] Give yourself grace. Challenge those negative thoughts that remind you of how you're procrastinating are putting off the important things.
[09:11] Think of your brain like a search engine. Make a list of all of the times that you accomplished your goals. Remind yourself of how you can get things done.
[10:30] Take the toddler approach and ask yourself why. Once you know the thought, you can deal with it. What would I do if I didn't think this was difficult?
[13:25] Take the next best step once your brain is unlocked.
[14:21] Now you can build your productivity muscles. Schedule the tasks and follow through on what you say you're going to do.
[16:19] Another way people stall their progress is by having shaky values.
[17:17] Honestly look at your values. Do you value other people's opinions or your image over what you truly desire? Are you waiting for someone's seal of approval?
[19:06] Are you valuing comfort overreaching your goals? Where are you choosing comfort over your goal? The first step is admitting that this is true.
[21:57] Create a standard for who you are becoming. Look towards the future and the life that you want to create.
[22:57] There is a reason why journaling, affirmations, and vision boards are so powerful. Take the reality of what's in our mind and bring it into existence.
[24:42] Print out the Dangerous Woman Manifesto and put it on your mirror. Put it everywhere. If there's something specific you want to work on, add it to the manifesto.
[25:48] Do the work!
[26:49] Are you willing to be wrong about yourself and what you think is possible for you?