Secret Self Loathing
There is a sneaky underlying thing that could be causing you to self-sabotage, and you might not even be aware of it. It’s an insidious thing that often goes on in our minds without our realizing it. I will bring awareness to this issue and tell you how you can recognize and change these thoughts from stalling your progress and goals.
I noticed myself being critical of my past self and some of my mistakes and poor decisions. I even caught myself being critical of myself and asking what was wrong with you. Why would you do that? Using negative language about our pasts can halt our future growth. We need to love and embrace ourselves where we are and celebrate our forward momentum.
[03:05] I'm proud of the woman I am now and the woman I'm becoming. The woman I was in the past, not so much.
[04:09] Too many dangerous women are pushing away the parts of their story that aren't pretty or packaged up with a nice bow around them.
[04:36] You can't grow from your past lessons if you try to bury them. If you avoid looking back, you put yourself in jeopardy of repeating the same things.
[05:25] How is it fair to hold shame and guilt against yourself for someone that you used to be?
[06:01] Think about all of the parts of you and your story and let go of the parts that don't serve you. As a leader, it's your job to let them go in the kindest way.
[07:45] Now you're looking at the past version of yourself with love and gratitude.
[09:04] Think about if you accept the past version of yourself for who she was and have gratitude for where you are now. You've done the work to level up as you go to each level.
[10:13] Take inventory of your thoughts about who you were in the past. If you have feelings of shame, guilt, or self-loathing make a decision about how long you want to sit with that. It's time to forgive yourself and move on.
[11:14] Let it go with compassion and love.
[12:19] Doing this work will absolutely set you up for a life beyond your wildest dreams.
[12:36] This is the kind of work that we'll be doing in the year of The Dangerous Woman Mastermind.
[13:19] Say "Yes" to becoming the woman you were meant to be. Schedule a call and we'll talk about it.
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