Being the "Bigger Person" Fatigue
I frequently hear clients talk about how they're tired of having to be the bigger person. The one that always concedes, forgives, or initiates a reconciliation. It feels exhausting. Can you relate to this? Do you find yourself being the bigger person to keep the peace?
If so, this episode is for you. This week we're talking about what to do when you're tired of feeling like you're always the one having to be the bigger person in your relationships.
I also want to remind you to sign up for my Live Masterclass. I’m going to be teaching a class called The Biggest Reason Positive Changes And Habits Don't Stick And What To Do To Finally Break Free Of The Start/Stop Cycle. I'll be giving you the system to implement positive habits to make changes in a way that sticks.
[02:45] The exhaustion you may be feeling can come from having to constantly withhold your feelings and emotions.
It will feel heavy if you're trying to keep the peace, ignoring your feelings.
[03:31] You're working overtime to distract yourself from those thoughts, not to feel the feelings. This happens when you're not solid in setting boundaries and expectations in relationships.
[04:19] When you don't healthily express your feelings, it will not work in the long run. Sometimes we fear what's going to happen if we allow our feelings to come up to the surface.
[04:54] You can define who you are and be that person everywhere you go.
[05:29] This is an invitation to establish that you are a woman who sets boundaries and expresses and feels all of her feelings.
[06:04] When you stop trying to fight the reality of what is and allow it to be, you align your feelings and actions.
[06:40] Being the bigger person is more about you and who you want to be. It has nothing to do with the other person.
[07:31] To stop bigger person fatigue, stop telling yourself that you are the bigger person.
[08:38] It isn't easy to set and maintain a standard. We want to argue our points and prove that we're always right. You won't experience the peace you want operating that way.
[09:45] It's not easy, but I promise you that when you do this work, it's worth it. You're going to be so proud of who you have become.
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